20 things I have learnt at the age of 20.

I have heard on many occasions that the 20s are better than your teen years of life. You have more independence, more freedom, a better sense of who you want to be and what you want to do. Being 20 years old, having moved out from home and having to really think about my future and my career path, I have recently been extremely reflective. I have learnt a lot so far about myself, others and just life in general so I thought I would share some of these ideas.

  1. Confidence is key – If you’re confident it will make your life so much better! FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. I know it is easier said that done but if you pretend to be more confident, then other people will positively react to that making you actually feel more confident. It’s a complete cycle that actually works. Some ways to do this: stand up straight, maintain eye contact, dress well (when you look good, you feel good) and smile.
  2. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. If you put your mind to something, don’t let anything stop you from working to achieve it. The first step to success is truly believing you can accomplish it.
  3. You are very special and by far more than good enough.You are unique with your own likes, dislikes, dreams, goals, experiences and even fingerprints; aspects that no one else has. No one can be exactly you so embrace that.
  4. Always make your own judgment when you meet other people for the first time. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If you’ve heard of something ‘bad’ they’ve done in the past, you might not know the full story and people change! Also, doing bad things doesn’t make you a bad person. Everyone makes mistakes so trust people until you have a personal valid reason not to! Obviously I understand there are exceptions to this but I’m just generally speaking.
  5. Blood isn’t necessarily thicker than water – my best friends are my family. They’ve been there for me during times when my own family hasn’t. They know things about me that no one else does and make me feel more positive and good about myself which is so important!
  6. Surround yourself with positive people! Negativity is toxic and unhelpful. Get rid of that from your life and everything will eventually seem more amazing and clear.
  7. If you go out of your comfort zone to do something and people start hating on you for it, then keep doing it (whether this be getting a job, go travelling, start a blog, join a club or anything of interest).
  8. Study hard in school – Education is so valuable in today’s society. Knowledge is power!
  9. Self love is so important – Let go of the need to live up to others expectations and care about other people’s opinions of you and what they think. If doing what you’re doing is positively enlightens you and your life then I don’t see any reason to stop.
  10. Friends come and go – Don’t let people walk all over you or treat you less than you deserve. It is hard losing someone. When you spend everyday of your life talking to and seeing them to becoming complete strangers, it’s weird. However, a good friend of mine told me ‘every loss is a gain’ and it is so very true!
  11. If there is something you genuinely love or are passionate about, don’t let others make you feel embarrassed or ashamed about it.
  12. Always go with your gut instinct – If you’re in a complete dilemma for what to do in a certain situation, I am a firm believer due to personal experience, that your gut instinct won’t fail you so do what it tells you to do.
  13. Everyone has a story and a reason for why they are who are they are. I  think that people who hurt others are hurt themselves. They might be bitter because they got treated badly and they’re retaliating. They want others to know how they were made to feel. I’m not saying the behaviour is justified, I am just saying there is a reason.
  14. Quality > quantity is the true value of friendship: When I was younger, I wanted to have lots of friends but I was never popular. As you grow older, you realise it is better to have 5 friends who positively enrich and enhance your life and are all you could ever want in a friend, as oppose to 50 people who you don’t ever really see or speak to, or feel comfortable in confiding in them when you need someone by your side.
  15. Don’t chase people and always make the effort with them. Don’t always be the one to send the first text and make plans. Any form of relationship is only going to work if it’s a two- way street. If they’re not making the effort with you, it’s not worth it.
  16. Just be a nice person! Life can be hard, more so for some people and you never really know what someone is going through so always make sure you ask people how they’re doing, show you care and try and put a smile on their face.
  17. Watch and keep up to date with the news! It is so important to know and be on top of what is going on in the world. In our busy lives, it can be hard to find time so maybe download some news channels apps and turn the notifications on so you see it instantly when you go on your phone or follow news channels on your social media. If you can’t go and watch the news, bring the news to you!
  18. Use every opportunity you have to meet and get to know other people! You never know when you will meet someone inspiring or just really easy to get along with. Talk to them, ask questions, you can learn such valuable stores and lessons for the people you would least expect.
  19. Make to do lists! Sometimes things can get overwhelming especially if you’re a busy person with lots of things to do whilst at school, at college or just working. Break your goals down into smaller activities and write it down. That way, you wont forget anything that you have to do and you have the joy of ticking it off once the deed is completed.
  20. Life is too short to hold grudges against someone else. Either properly resolve the issue with the person involved and then forgive and forget, or, if it’s something unforgivable then dissociate yourself completely from it all. Don’t let it eat you up because hate and anger are such negative and wasted emotions.

 

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